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Seven Tips For Stress Release Especially For Moms & Professionals

Expert Author Tejashree Chawla

Note: You know yourself best. I invite you to use wise discernment. Take only what resonates and works for you and your situation. And simply release the rest!

“Kids typically do not remember the things you bought them when they grow up. They tend to remember the fun times & memories together. At the end of the day, the most overwhelming key to a child’s success is the positive involvement of parents.”  Jane D. Hull

1] Notice how you go about your day. Pause & breathe and release what is not working.

Do you rush often thinking of what has to be done later or how things went before? I know most parents are juggling much. I too am a parent and have been there and sometimes still catch myself thankfully much earlier!

If you notice yourself breathing either shallow or fast, I invite you to slow down & choose conscious breathing. This will open space to stop rushing & be calm instead.

As children, we naturally learnt abdominal breathing. Somehow, we seem to forget that as we go through our life experiences & become adults. Not only will conscious breathing & being in this moment help you, you will also be a great model for your children on using “pause and breathe” as ways to help prevent meltdowns and redirect.

Do consciously breathe also to release any tension, stress or tightness you may feel. I also invite you to release perfectionism or ways of controlling things so they go a certain way.

Thought Invokers are questions to reflect on & that often bring insight:

A thought invoker to consider:

What can open up for you when you release the habit of worrying & trying to be & do it all perfectly?

2] What all are you grateful for?

When you develop the habit of appreciating people, nature, what you already have, life events and learning etc on a daily basis, you will notice an increased sense of contentment and joy!.

Practice appreciating & celebrating small joys & victories even with your children. They will begin appreciating more instead of taking things for granted.

As it is wisely said: What you appreciate, appreciates!

3) Identify and write your vision and intentions for the year and also for 5 / 10 years and take baby steps forward.

Take time to identify 2-3 actions for daily practice to fulfill your best intentions and vision.  Your written vision and intentions can be short and crisp OR if have more time and wish to, more descriptive. Then allow yourself to feel the emotions you feel as though you have already received this vision. You will be inspired by the emotions of gratitude and joy on fulfilling your desired vision. Listen for your intuition and inner wisdom guidance and take small steps everyday towards your vision!

Always use wise judgement & modify based on feedback. You know yourself and your situation best. You may choose to share with your spouse /partner, a friend or coach for support.

4] Meet with other Moms you like and trust, share as you intuit best, learn, support and celebrate each other (yes, even virtually too!). 

Research indicates that most women feel a decrease in their stress levels when they connect, share and learn from others like them.

Remember to take time to cultivate friendships that nurture you and fulfill you and vice versa!

5) Take time out for at least one practice that helps you be in observer mode daily and also nurtures you physically, emotionally and spiritually [whatever your faith]. 

Mindfulness practices can help you release old limiting patterns such as reacting in ways you don’t want to sometimes [which often happens to Moms / Dads / or frankly anyone who gets stressed!.]

Thought Invoker: What one-two activities emotionally & /or spiritually fulfill you?

Some activities people find valuable: Yoga, Meditative walks in nature, Running, Swimming, Gardening, Art, Crafts, Tai Chi, playing a musical instrument etc

6) Taking care of yourself is not just important, it’s vital!

Take at least 20 minutes [and preferably more] for yourself daily! Engage in something you love and that you enjoy!

  • Thought Invokers:
  • What’s possible for you & your family when you take time to invest in you?
  • What’s an activity that makes you feel you are in your genius zone?

Remember the airplane example? Where we are reminded to first put our own oxygen mask then put on the mask for others including our children. After all, what good can we do for others if we aren’t around and well?

7) You don’t have to do it alone!

Empower yourself with the support of a coach who listens for and calls forth your potential, natural gifts and abilities!

Find a coach you resonate with and move forward on your desired results now!

  • Working with a Coach is different from working with a therapist, consultant or even a Mentor.
  • A coach is also different from a friend who listens and also wants you to listen to them and support them.
  • An awesome coach creates with and for you a loving space for you to stretch and grow, enhancing your quality of work and life for what you value most!

Note-These resources are shared for informational purposes only.

Copyright Tejashree Chawla 2017; 2020

Start Over!

As we eagerly prepare to end the lock down time & resume a full life with adaptations, we have access to simple yet great opportunities such as:

  • The chance to unplug from activities, places, devices, people, things etc that don’t nurture & serve our best
  • The chance to make new & better conscious choices with regard to our habits, how we engage with self, family, others, nature, the environment, our work & the world community &
  • The chance to commit to our Source daily

Invitation to reflect on thought invokers below & take into conscious action:

* What all have you learnt from the stay at home time?

* How are you integrating lessons learned in your life now?

* What is one practice you commit to now to live into & from your full potential?

Nature in full bloom! – Pic by Tejashree

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Seven Strategies For Finding Joy

By Tejashree Chawla, MA, MS, CPCC

[Note: You are invited to take what you like & you think best works for you]

Are you feeling frustrated, overwhelmed & worried with the way things are now?

Would you like to find joy even in these unprecedented time & develop it to be a frequent choice & way of being?

Read on…

Seven strategies for finding joy that may possibly help even in this time:

1) Develop a practice of always counting your blessings. More than likely, even in this time, there’s almost always something you could be grateful for. Perhaps it could be as basic as being thankful for one’s breath, being alive or having someone who loves you. Even during times of change, loss & grief, when one chooses to breathe consciously & in time accept the change & losses associated & one’s emotions, focusing on one’s blessings will likely help.

2) When you’re not feeling joy, pause & notice-where have you been looking for joy? Looking outside and especially only to material things for joy is likely to leave you wanting. Looking within on the other hand can be deeply fulfilling. Daily practices such as meditation, prayer, journal writing can help you in your journey of finding joy.

Accepting & loving one self fully including ones so called flaws is also a significant key to finding peace & joy in one’s life.

3) Develop a habit of consciously choosing to ask empowering questions of yourself & others. The questions we ask ourselves will support & inspire thoughts that better serve our highest intentions!

So, just in case you are asking “why me” & feeling like a victim, here’s an alternate you would want to ask yourself instead: “What’s the opportunity here?”. This latter empowering question can open you up to better possibilities!

As is said: when one asks wise questions, one is more likely to get wise answers.

For example, when one asks something like” Why did I make this mistake?”,

one isn’t very likely to get answers that will help you move forward or have breakthroughs.

Replacing this with a question like, “What can I learn from this?”

Or “What 1 thing can I do to turn this around?” is more likely to move you forward!

“Man is made by his belief. As he believes, so he is” Bhagavad Gita

“The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another,” William James (American Philosopher and Psychologist)

4) Build a daily habit to invest in your self-care & growth even for a few minutes (you can start with even ten minutes & build on it).

Do something that nurtures you. You can even start small by taking 10 to 20 minutes a day for perhaps a walk, reading, gardening, swimming, meditating or any other such activity by which you feel naturally alive!. I’m saying this from my own experience and based on what I’ve learnt from people who are living joyful and successful lives. Those who take good care of themselves are much more likely to be more joyful than those who don’t. Also, they are likely to be more available to give freely to others without resentment, guilt or burnout.

5) Do something everyday to contribute to others and with no expectations!

Even on the busiest of days, one could contribute with at least one (if not more) simple acts of love or kindness such as a welcoming smile, a card acknowledging another person, or perhaps saying a prayer for someone going through a challenging time based on your beliefs.

6) Befriend nature. Take time daily to befriend nature. Perhaps a walk, gardening or even if necessary, working on your laptop or taking a call at a park, your yard or under a tree. Newton’s discovery illustrates creativity thrives while being outdoors in nature. Taking even 20 minutes to be in nature will more than likely recharge you!

Also consider building a garden that may help sustain you with some vegetables & fruits [nowadays even possible in small spaces.]

7) Find your purpose and live it…

Why wait to discover & live your purpose when you retire or when your kids graduate or another time? Why not begin now?

You are more likely to be vibrantly alive, fulfilled & joyful no matter what when you are living from purpose than if you are not. So do take the time to find & live your purpose.

And if you know your purpose & feel stuck or want support moving forward fully in living your purpose, email me at 11tejashree@gmail.com to connect & get started !

Note: this article is for informational purposes only.

Original Copyright Tejashree Chawla 2009; Revised 2020